So, without going into too much detail, I recently had the lovely experience of being treated as a scapegoat. Its an unfortunate situation, but one I'm trying not to worry about. Eventually, the truth will surface, but irregardless, I will have moved on. But it did get me thinking about friendships, because honestly, I don't think I would have handled this whole situation near as well without some great people in my life.
Now if I handled the situation like I typically would have, I would have ruminated over the issue all night eventually making myself sick to my stomach and questioning myself. Instead, I grabbed a bottle of wine and two good friends who refused to let me frown for more than two minutes at a time. By the end of the night I was smiling and happy. It is still hard not to take the situation personally, but by not ruminating on the issue, I was able to at least gain some perspective and not convince myself that the issue was me. I'm not sure if my friends realize just how much I appreciate what they did for me, because it was an immense help and a huge step for me.
Now comes the test for my fringe friends. I don't mean to use that word in a negative context, but more so in reference to the friends that you see on occasion. Not your core group, but your drinking buddies that you still hang out with, still consider a friend, might even be able to get them to pick you up off the side of the road in the middle of a night, but maybe not the ones you call everyday. I'm in a position where I will need to rely on them and their generosity. It should be interesting to see who comes through for me or puts out a genuine effort to help me out! The good new is, a small effort goes a long way with me :)
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